I had a terrific conversation with Mark Coleman, the meditation teacher and therapist, about how to defeat bullies within and without. His new book, Make Peace With Your Mind, is full of good stuff. Here’s a quote from our interview:
“The critic really started as a survivor mechanism in early infancy and childhood when we were trying to navigate our early family system and culture. When we’re learning how to fit in so we could optimize that flow of love and affection. It was an internal voice telling us to shut certain patterns and reactions down, that negativity bias that’s always looking for what’s wrong, looking for the threat. That tendency gets dovetailed into the critic, so that we don’t just notice what’s wrong. Instead, the critic comes in and nails us, slams us for it.”
I talked to my friend Mark Wolynn about his eye-opening new book, It Didn’t Start With You, for Psychology Today. Mark’s book is a groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations. Mark is Director of The Family Constellations Institute and an expert in healing inherited trauma. I learned a lot from our conversation.
I recently had an interview published in Art & Inspiration, a free bilingual English/French e-magazine & website with a directory of international artists. In the article titled From Crisis to Creativity: an Interview with Mark Matousek, I discuss the common threads in the stories from my book When You’re Falling, Dive, how to face crisis, as well as my philosophy that each of us is born with creative genius. I hope you enjoy it.
“Hardship and pain are the very things we are told to avoid, but If we recognize that darkness can be a doorway into self-realization and can “galvanize and deepen the spirit,” new opportunities begin to unfold.” This is a quote from a new article in the Hudson Valley paper Chronogram by Wendy Kagan. Read the full article here. I’ll be teaching the workshop “Thriving Through Adversity” at Old Stone Farm in Rhinebeck on December 5-8. Continue reading →
Rachel Pomerance, the health editor of U.S. News and World Report, just did a great piece about Ethical Wisdom for Friends for the magazine. We were on the phone for over an hour, exchanging stories about complicated friends (and friendships), jealousy, competition, betrayal, and romantic attraction between friends, and how to deal with friends that sap your energy, mooch, or don’t come through for us in times of need. Continue reading →
A piece about my work just came out in Art & Inspiration, an online magazine published in France (the article appears in both English and French). The theme of this issue is crisis and creativity; I’m interviewed along with Carolyn Myss and three other writers. Tess Nurman, the very young, very smart editor and founder of Art and Inspiration, talked to me by Skype for an hour – about my personal life and books, especially “When You’re Falling, Dive,” then assembled a gallery of ancient photographs that took me WAY back … like seeing my life flash before my eyes. Art and Inspiration is published quarterly and is full of powerful pieces and terrific visuals. I’m happy to be in such good company.