I had a terrific conversation with Mark Coleman, the meditation teacher and therapist, about how to defeat bullies within and without. His new book, Make Peace With Your Mind, is full of good stuff. Here’s a quote from our interview:
“The critic really started as a survivor mechanism in early infancy and childhood when we were trying to navigate our early family system and culture. When we’re learning how to fit in so we could optimize that flow of love and affection. It was an internal voice telling us to shut certain patterns and reactions down, that negativity bias that’s always looking for what’s wrong, looking for the threat. That tendency gets dovetailed into the critic, so that we don’t just notice what’s wrong. Instead, the critic comes in and nails us, slams us for it.”
Join me this Sunday, November 6 at 5 pm EST for the Live Seekers Session Teleconference, What Is Enough?: Indestructible Gratitude. We’ll be talking about sufficiency and the cultivation of thankfulness. To recognize your inherent wholeness is the heart of spiritual practice. To feel gratitude for our precious lives, knowing that who you are is more than enough, is the bridge to an awakened life.
These monthly Seekers Sessions are the kickoff to each new program from The Seekers Forum, my community of fellow seekers and inquisitive minds interested in exploring spiritual and philosophical questions in a dogma-free atmosphere of self-inquiry, inspiration, and spiritual practice. It’s modeled after the sufi concept of sohbet, which is the spiritual talk of friends. Each program continues through the month with video lessons, a guest interview, and discussion prompts to promote dialog and further the conversation in The Forum, the online discussion room. Visit The Seekers Forum for more information and to become a member.
Surrender has long been a dirty word in a culture steeped in do-or-die machismo, in which giving in — even when fighting is useless — is often seen as giving up. Yet most of the things that truly matter — love, art, awakening, service — require significant leaps of surrender. Here’s my column from this month’s Contemplative Journal.
I have a new story out today in The Saturday Evening Post. “Time Out!” looks at the mindfulness movement that’s sweeping across the country. From public schools to corporate boardrooms, research labs, and even the Capitol Rotunda in Washington, D.C., mindfulness practices such as meditation have made their way into the mainstream, helping people lower their stress levels, sharpen their attention, improve work performance (in the case of students, their grades), become physically and mentally resilient, and improve their relationships. Continue reading →